Sofia is now 20 months old, almost 20.5 months and sometimes it feels like an eternity since we walked out of that NICU. I’ve been thinking a lot about our experience in its entirety over the past few weeks, from finding out we were pregnant, through the crazy pregnancy and Sofia’s emotional birth. We are pretty close to the 2 year mark so the questions start coming a little more regularly…when are you going to try for #2? Thinking about trying soon? Just by nature the more you are asked the more you ask yourself, the more I ask my husband. We’ve even turned the question to Sofia. Sofie, what do you think about a brother? Her response, “Bruder”? It almost always comes back as a question. Ironic, really.
So, we talk and discuss. Is it the right time, can we afford it, are we ready? Pretty typical. Sofia’s almost two, logically, if we start trying now, by the time we have a baby she’ll be almost three or just past her third birthday…right? I mean theoretically, babies take 10 months to grow but what happens when the last one barely took over 6 months?! How do you not think about that? How do you choose a new Doctor and not consider the level NICU they are associated with? Will this NICU be as good? Sure, I had my surgery. This was my safe guard. Remove the fibroid tumors, they were most likely the issue. But what if they weren’t? I asked this to the OB who performed the surgery. He said, “We’ll find out next pregnancy”. It was a statement of fact, no sugar coating, no hemming and hawing, just a statement.
I’ve come to realize that even though the first pregnancy was riddled in the unknown and “what ifs” of being a first time pregnancy, another pregnancy may be tainted with past experience, compounded with how it will effect baby #1. I feel our NICU experience made me stronger as a mother, my bond with her is surreal. My patience, on most days, because let’s face it, she’s a toddler and they are crazy, runs deeper than I could imagine. As far as NICU stays, I feel it was a positive journey. But how to you leave it behind? How do you keep your past experience from defining your future? How do you stop being a NICU Mom when you are ready to become a Mom again?
I had no clue the path we would be on when that first pregnancy test flashed with a confirmation of a new adventure. I didn’t know the lessons Sofia would teach me in her very first moments of life, lessons in perseverance, strength and faith. All I can do is follow her lead. Be in awe of each new experience and draw strength from faith. I have to learn to give up my analyzing and have faith that the next adventure will present itself as it is intended. I hope I can live in the moment of that new confirmation and just think of it as a NEW adventure, a NEW journey…
Looking Back: First day in the hospital
Sept 16th: Just 1 year ago today I woke up after my first night of bed rest. This was also the day before we were scheduled to move from Raleigh, NC back to be near family in Orlando, FL. The 14th, we went in to the OB to just have one last check to see if everything was ok before we hit the road on our trip. I had just commented to my girlfriends Tessa and Cory the night before the appointment over frozen yogurt, on our last girls night, that I felt the best I had all pregnancy. I hadn’t had much pain in about a week and half, my breathing felt better and I generally felt good. So, on my way out to the appointment Jonathan asked if I wanted him to join. I said only if he wanted, it should be a quick appointment late morning. He asked me if I would be having and ultrasound, I told him yes and he decided that he wanted to be there to see our little Sweet Pea once more before we hit the road.
The morning of the 14th we planned to go to the appointment, grab lunch on the way home and continue packing. During the appointment with the ultrasound tech we just enjoyed the show if watching our little one wiggle all around at 23 weeks and engaged in casual conversation as the ultrasound checked for heartbeat and whatever else they look at like cervical length. That’s when the conversation came to a dead stop and the tech informed us that she was calling the OB in. The OB came in and him and the tech whispered back and forth for what felt like forever. This was about the time that Jonathan and I knew that our plans for the day were not what we originally thought.
Then we were given the news that at 23wks I was already between 1 and 2 cm’s dilated with membranes bulging. The Ob said, “we are in Yikesville”, which must be the professional term for “oh shit, this is bad”, and we were informed that we needed to drive to the hospital immediately.
I’m so thankful looking back that my OB Dr Ashley Rush wanted to be proactive and called me into that appointment. I’m beyond thankful that my husband was with me at the appointment and to drive me to the hospital. There is not telling what could have happened if we had been on the road, at 23weeks pregnant, pre viability and my water broke. We would never have been expecting it.
When you find out you are expecting, you never expect to end up on hospital bed rest. After 12 weeks, the first trimester, it’s the safe zone. How, why is this happening? It was definitely a memory that even a year later is very much a clear scene in my mind. It’s a scene that makes me appreciate every giggle I hear, every milestone she hits and every hug I get from my precious little miracle.
Looking Back: First day in the hospital
Sept 16th: Just 1 year ago today I woke up after my first night of bed rest. This was also the day before we were scheduled to move from Raleigh, NC back to be near family in Orlando, FL. The 14th, we went in to the OB to just have one last check to see if everything was ok before we hit the road on our trip. I had just commented to my girlfriends Tessa and Cory the night before the appointment over frozen yogurt, on our last girls night, that I felt the best I had all pregnancy. I hadn’t had much pain in about a week and half, my breathing felt better and I generally felt good. So, on my way out to the appointment Jonathan asked if I wanted him to join. I said only if he wanted, it should be a quick appointment late morning. He asked me if I would be having and ultrasound, I told him yes and he decided that he wanted to be there to see our little Sweet Pea once more before we hit the road.
The morning of the 14th we planned to go to the appointment, grab lunch on the way home and continue packing. During the appointment with the ultrasound tech we just enjoyed the show if watching our little one wiggle all around at 23 weeks and engaged in casual conversation as the ultrasound checked for heartbeat and whatever else they look at like cervical length. That’s when the conversation came to a dead stop and the tech informed us that she was calling the OB in. The OB came in and him and the tech whispered back and forth for what felt like forever. This was about the time that Jonathan and I knew that our plans for the day were not what we originally thought.
Then we were given the news that at 23wks I was already between 1 and 2 cm’s dilated with membranes bulging. The Ob said, “we are in Yikesville”, which must be the professional term for “oh shit, this is bad”, and we were informed that we needed to drive to the hospital immediately.
I’m so thankful looking back that my OB Dr Ashley Rush wanted to be proactive and called me into that appointment. I’m beyond thankful that my husband was with me at the appointment and to drive me to the hospital. There is not telling what could have happened if we had been on the road, at 23weeks pregnant, pre viability and my water broke. We would never have been expecting it.
When you find out you are expecting, you never expect to end up on hospital bed rest. After 12 weeks, the first trimester, it’s the safe zone. How, why is this happening? It was definitely a memory that even a year later is very much a clear scene in my mind. It’s a scene that makes me appreciate every giggle I hear, every milestone she hits and every hug I get from my precious little miracle.
Looking Back: First day in the hospital
Sept 16th: Just 1 year ago today I woke up after my first night of bed rest. This was also the day before we were scheduled to move from Raleigh, NC back to be near family in Orlando, FL. The 14th, we went in to the OB to just have one last check to see if everything was ok before we hit the road on our trip. I had just commented to my girlfriends Tessa and Cory the night before the appointment over frozen yogurt, on our last girls night, that I felt the best I had all pregnancy. I hadn’t had much pain in about a week and half, my breathing felt better and I generally felt good. So, on my way out to the appointment Jonathan asked if I wanted him to join. I said only if he wanted, it should be a quick appointment late morning. He asked me if I would be having and ultrasound, I told him yes and he decided that he wanted to be there to see our little Sweet Pea once more before we hit the road.
The morning of the 14th we planned to go to the appointment, grab lunch on the way home and continue packing. During the appointment with the ultrasound tech we just enjoyed the show if watching our little one wiggle all around at 23 weeks and engaged in casual conversation as the ultrasound checked for heartbeat and whatever else they look at like cervical length. That’s when the conversation came to a dead stop and the tech informed us that she was calling the OB in. The OB came in and him and the tech whispered back and forth for what felt like forever. This was about the time that Jonathan and I knew that our plans for the day were not what we originally thought.
Then we were given the news that at 23wks I was already between 1 and 2 cm’s dilated with membranes bulging. The Ob said, “we are in Yikesville”, which must be the professional term for “oh shit, this is bad”, and we were informed that we needed to drive to the hospital immediately.
I’m so thankful looking back that my OB Dr Ashley Rush wanted to be proactive and called me into that appointment. I’m beyond thankful that my husband was with me at the appointment and to drive me to the hospital. There is not telling what could have happened if we had been on the road, at 23weeks pregnant, pre viability and my water broke. We would never have been expecting it.
When you find out you are expecting, you never expect to end up on hospital bed rest. After 12 weeks, the first trimester, it’s the safe zone. How, why is this happening? It was definitely a memory that even a year later is very much a clear scene in my mind. It’s a scene that makes me appreciate every giggle I hear, every milestone she hits and every hug I get from my precious little miracle.
Sofia 10 Months: July/August
July 20th: We finally bit the bullet and got a crib for our 10 month old. Most people have this done first but clearly the Farsaci’s are bit out of order on our baby schedule. Sofia is starting to learn to sit up on her own and finding strength to pull up to her knees. The co-sleeper just won’t be a safe place for her for much longer. We decided to set the crib up in our bedroom because our split plan home puts Sofia all the way on the other side of the house. Daddy F and I just aren’t ready for that much distance. Sofia is also still nursing overnight and mornings and the haul to get to her bedroom is a little more than this working Mama wants to try and tackle at this point.
Sofia is a super busy bee and isn’t a big fan of sitting still unless it’s for eating. She is still doing great with solids and is starting to prefer more consistency. This means that the level for choking hazard has gone up during meal time so I can’t help but stare her down during her whole meal to make sure I see any signs of trouble. So far so good, nothing a little self induced cough hasn’t cleared. Although, it still makes your heart skip a beat to see them struggle even in the slightest.
The spit ups and reflux are still giving us quite a bit of trouble but we are hoping as she gets bigger and stronger we will start to out grown this. At this point it seems to be more of a laundry problem than a medical issue.
Late July and early August are birthday season for our family. July 21st:Sofia had a blast at her cousin Mia’s 7th birthday party! August 6th: We celebrated with Glama and got a taste of frosting…naughty, Glama!!! August 12: Cuma B her aunt and Godmother had her birthday too! This little girlie is a party animal.
Other Memorable dates in late July and early August:
August 8: Sofia discovers the joys of mani/pedi.
August 11: We help Glama campaign for School board. It was super hot but lots of fun.
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Practicing the wave |
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Daddy was a natural, he got the most honks and wave |
August 12: Sofia says Dada clearly for the first time!!!!
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Baby to work day! |
Sofia 10 Months: July/August
July 20th: We finally bit the bullet and got a crib for our 10 month old. Most people have this done first but clearly the Farsaci’s are bit out of order on our baby schedule. Sofia is starting to learn to sit up on her own and finding strength to pull up to her knees. The co-sleeper just won’t be a safe place for her for much longer. We decided to set the crib up in our bedroom because our split plan home puts Sofia all the way on the other side of the house. Daddy F and I just aren’t ready for that much distance. Sofia is also still nursing overnight and mornings and the haul to get to her bedroom is a little more than this working Mama wants to try and tackle at this point.
Sofia is a super busy bee and isn’t a big fan of sitting still unless it’s for eating. She is still doing great with solids and is starting to prefer more consistency. This means that the level for choking hazard has gone up during meal time so I can’t help but stare her down during her whole meal to make sure I see any signs of trouble. So far so good, nothing a little self induced cough hasn’t cleared. Although, it still makes your heart skip a beat to see them struggle even in the slightest.
The spit ups and reflux are still giving us quite a bit of trouble but we are hoping as she gets bigger and stronger we will start to out grown this. At this point it seems to be more of a laundry problem than a medical issue.
Late July and early August are birthday season for our family. July 21st:Sofia had a blast at her cousin Mia’s 7th birthday party! August 6th: We celebrated with Glama and got a taste of frosting…naughty, Glama!!! August 12: Cuma B her aunt and Godmother had her birthday too! This little girlie is a party animal.
Other Memorable dates in late July and early August:
August 8: Sofia discovers the joys of mani/pedi.
August 11: We help Glama campaign for School board. It was super hot but lots of fun.
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Practicing the wave |
![]() |
Daddy was a natural, he got the most honks and wave |
August 12: Sofia says Dada clearly for the first time!!!!
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Baby to work day! |
Sofia 10 Months: July/August
July 20th: We finally bit the bullet and got a crib for our 10 month old. Most people have this done first but clearly the Farsaci’s are bit out of order on our baby schedule. Sofia is starting to learn to sit up on her own and finding strength to pull up to her knees. The co-sleeper just won’t be a safe place for her for much longer. We decided to set the crib up in our bedroom because our split plan home puts Sofia all the way on the other side of the house. Daddy F and I just aren’t ready for that much distance. Sofia is also still nursing overnight and mornings and the haul to get to her bedroom is a little more than this working Mama wants to try and tackle at this point.
Sofia is a super busy bee and isn’t a big fan of sitting still unless it’s for eating. She is still doing great with solids and is starting to prefer more consistency. This means that the level for choking hazard has gone up during meal time so I can’t help but stare her down during her whole meal to make sure I see any signs of trouble. So far so good, nothing a little self induced cough hasn’t cleared. Although, it still makes your heart skip a beat to see them struggle even in the slightest.
The spit ups and reflux are still giving us quite a bit of trouble but we are hoping as she gets bigger and stronger we will start to out grown this. At this point it seems to be more of a laundry problem than a medical issue.
Late July and early August are birthday season for our family. July 21st:Sofia had a blast at her cousin Mia’s 7th birthday party! August 6th: We celebrated with Glama and got a taste of frosting…naughty, Glama!!! August 12: Cuma B her aunt and Godmother had her birthday too! This little girlie is a party animal.
Other Memorable dates in late July and early August:
August 8: Sofia discovers the joys of mani/pedi.
August 11: We help Glama campaign for School board. It was super hot but lots of fun.
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Practicing the wave |
![]() |
Daddy was a natural, he got the most honks and wave |
August 12: Sofia says Dada clearly for the first time!!!!
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Baby to work day! |
Day 15: No more Picc line, please and thank you
Yup, you guessed it by the title. Sofie’s Picc line was removed today, she’s up to 12cc’s on her feedings and going up almost every day!! She has gained yet again and is around 1 lb 11 ounces. Mommy was able to kangaroo for the first time in days and couldn’t be happier. We’re also thinking the slight lack of milk production could be the byproduct of Mommy’s fever combined with no baby time, so hopefully we’ll be on the upswing soon. Sofia wanted me to tell everyone thank you for the thoughts and prayers and also wants to know what you think of her new hairstyle. She thinks it will catch on soon around here. #trendsetter
Day 15: No more Picc line, please and thank you
Yup, you guessed it by the title. Sofie’s Picc line was removed today, she’s up to 12cc’s on her feedings and going up almost every day!! She has gained yet again and is around 1 lb 11 ounces. Mommy was able to kangaroo for the first time in days and couldn’t be happier. We’re also thinking the slight lack of milk production could be the byproduct of Mommy’s fever combined with no baby time, so hopefully we’ll be on the upswing soon. Sofia wanted me to tell everyone thank you for the thoughts and prayers and also wants to know what you think of her new hairstyle. She thinks it will catch on soon around here. #trendsetter
Day 15: No more Picc line, please and thank you
Yup, you guessed it by the title. Sofie’s Picc line was removed today, she’s up to 12cc’s on her feedings and going up almost every day!! She has gained yet again and is around 1 lb 11 ounces. Mommy was able to kangaroo for the first time in days and couldn’t be happier. We’re also thinking the slight lack of milk production could be the byproduct of Mommy’s fever combined with no baby time, so hopefully we’ll be on the upswing soon. Sofia wanted me to tell everyone thank you for the thoughts and prayers and also wants to know what you think of her new hairstyle. She thinks it will catch on soon around here. #trendsetter